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Survivor Moms Women's Stories of Birthing Mothering and Healing after Sexual AbuseMate partner violence They are classic tools of control sed by an abuser Even if those were the only tools Slade (Walk of Shame, used in a relationship educators and advocates would stillalify that relationship as abusive These scary pieces are often part of the survivor stories in Survivor Moms Linking sexual abuse to the bigger picture of intimate partner violence feels essentialThat said I think Survivor Moms is a hugely positive step toward helping educate the public and survivors themselves about the prevalence of sexual abuse and its impact on women and mothers If you are a doula or any other sort of birth professional run "DO NOT WALK TO YOUR NEAREST BOOK SOURCE TO "not walk to your nearest book source to Survivor Moms by Julia Seng and Mickey Sperlich I happen to live in Ann Arbor Michigan the hippest place in the sort of Midwest and Ann Arbor is home to many amazing midwives doulas and obstetricians Really We have at least FOUR awesome obstetricians in our town and those are just four whom I know personally There might even be than four which definitely puts s in hippest territory Anyway Ann Arbor is where Julia and Mickey lives so I have the pleasure

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knowing Mickey Julia personallySurvivor Moms is the book I didn t know I needed when I was a fledgling doula I supported many new mothers on their birthing journeys and left the births shaking my head What happened there I would wonder Someone who said she wanted one thing turned into a completely different person in labor Or she got stuck at some point in labor and we just couldn t shake it Then she would cry and shake all over and labor would get going again Huh Or her mistrust of the hospital personnel was so Huge That It Took Over that it took over Keeping nurses out of the room became the only way to keep the mom from getting hystericalI knew the stats like any feminist should I knew that many women experience childhood sexual abuse andor. R pregnancies births postpartum and mothering had been influenced by their history as survivors A total of 207 surveys were returned and from this number 81 women completed a narrative or contributed a poem Excerpts from these narratives form the basis of Survivor MomsThe book also includes some complete narratives along with resources and information from current research You'll be able to read the clinical perspectives of midwives and contributions from other health care professionals and you will learn about the implications. You can read my thoughts here The survivor response to this book is mixed from what I have seen online and heard anecdotally Some survivors reading it have shared how triggering it was for them And I completely hear that Sperlich and Seng s work is very through So I would be hesitant to recommend it as a read to survivors But as a tool for professionals who deal with survivors Survivor Moms is indispensableSurvivor Moms begins at the beginning before the survivor is even a mom The authors look at the range of affects that trauma can have *On The Woman In *the woman in PTSD substance abuse issues "disordered eating etc leading p to pregnancy frustratingly "eating etc leading Better Lucky Than Dead (Chance Lee, up to pregnancy Frustratingly isn t any mention of the link between abuse and infertility which seems very obvious to me but there s no mention of that here that I could find The book ends with hope and tools for healing setting the stage of recovery as a lifelong process 208 That phrase along with many interspersed in this book reallynderscore the many valuable messages in this book which often come from primary sources which makes the book all the powerfulSurvivor Moms is extremely well researched and offer Beyond Within up the voices of many survivors as testimonials to that research Those stories are what truly make this book both accessible andniue I appreciate that the book includes a broader look at sexual abuse in general and doesn t limit it s scope to childhood What is missing in my mind though is the linkage to intimate partner violence Not only would that be helpful for survivors to Concordancia de la Biblia Strong Concisa (Spanish Edition): James Strong: 9781602555174: Amazon.com: Books understand but for professionals as well Sexual assault doesn t happen in a vacuum it is part of the power and control dynamics of intimate partner violence Sexual abuse is planned and purposefulnless it is perpetuated by a stranger Threats intimidation scare tactics like harming beloved pets or siblings are hallmark indicators of inti. Sexual abuse and the reactions to it affect mothers' whole lives from thinking about having children all the way to being grandmothers Survivor Moms was written to help break down the isolation pregnant women and their caregivers often feel as though they were the only ones having to cope with these challenges In 1998 together with a team of survivors therapists and midwives Mickey Sperlich developed a survey project called Survivor Moms Speak Out This survey asked basic estions about the ways in which survivors felt that thei. Date rape andor domestic violence with their partners The thing is I just didn t connect the dots the way I should have I didn t think deeply about how these experiences could impact birthOne client for whom I was a volunteer doula clarified it all for me though I knew about her heartbreaking childhood and I could see that trusting anyone myself included was an act of heroism on her part I watched the nurses react to her mistrust as if she were an imbecile She succeeded in having a natural hospital birth but I "can only describe the battle with her two nurses as a war We "only Describe The Battle With Her Two Nurses As A War the battle with her two nurses as a war all wounded by the endThis book Survivor Moms is the book that I wish I had read before that birth and before so many others Now that I ve explored the wisdom offered here I shudder at the thought of thousands of nurses and obstetricians blithely attending women in birth without a single thought to their sexual history When women have survived nspeakable violence to their sexual selves it can have a tremendous impact on their laborsBut what I appreciate most is the call for non judgement Some survivor moms need support to take control of their bodies in ways that natural birth advocates do not always readily support They may need to schedule c sections in order to feel in control of their sexuality and reproductive selves They cannot bear having strangers gazing at and touching their genitals A c section feels empowering And other survivor moms need support to be as in control of their natural vaginal birth as possible They may need to refuse vaginal exams for instance These moms may find birth healing as they se wounded parts of their bodies and souls to produce goodness and new life As a doula I feel better *prepared to provide this support now that I ve read what dozens of survivor moms have to say *to provide this support now that I ve read what dozens of survivor moms have to say their birthing experiences I love this book Great resource boo. Of women's experiences for their care and discover suggestions for working together during maternity care and beyondYou need Survivor Moms if you are a survivor a midwife a mental health provider or if you know a survivor who is on this path This book will teach you about abuse mothering and the ongoing journey of healing and surviving It will also help you discover what you can do to helpChapters cover Life before Motherhood Pregnancy Labor and Birth Postpartum and Breastfeeding Mothering and Attachment Healing and Survivorsh. ,