Politically Incorrect lWrites a memoir in the second personHowever since the author writes very well you continue reading hoping shel eventually open up and really Beyond Varallan let you into herife You l eventually get a sense of who she is You re hoping she l stop writing as though you the reader are the one going through all this instead of the author You wonder what so many people ove about this book that maybe would work for you as a novel you doubt it because you d still not get to know the characters but as a memoir Nope just not doing it for youOK that s enough writing in the second person I l stop trying to make the review about you the reader and Dona Flor let you know that this review is what I think about the book BetterAgain what the hell Perhaps Ms Machado thought that by writing in the second person the reader would feelike they were in her shoes and maybe wonder how they would feel if they were And maybe that s what it did for some people but for me I kept reading the book wondering if I would ever earn anything about what she was feeling Perhaps it was too painful for her to write in the first person but in that case it wasn t time for her to write a memoir about painful experiences and she should have waited until she d had therapy and worked through her feelingsMaybe Ms Machado simply wanted to bring awareness to the fact that same sex relationships can be unhealthy and abusive just as straight ones sometimes are If that was all she wanted to do then she did that very well Maybe a ot of people were unaware of this fact but being esbian I ve known of three abusive relationships between women over the years Therefore I didn t need to read the book but I am glad the book sheds ight on this topic which is rarely ever talked aboutAs a memoir however the book just didn t work for me There were entire chapters describing movies and tv episodes Who does that It s a memoir not TV Guide I know almost as Sono with Visits from the Seventh little about Carmen Machado as I did prior to reading this book I don t even know how she and her ex girlfriend supported themselves There was talk of various places theyived but not about what they did to pay the rent and buy groceries did they even buy groceries and pay the rent or did they suat illegally And feelings I don t think I ve ever read a memoir where the author talked so Remarkable Creatures little about how they felt Or even what they were thinking She merely relates a few emotionally abusive episodes and some of the manipulation tactics her ex used on her and then goes on with the movie references and aot of discussion repetitive about how there can be abuse in same sex relationships It s elegantly written butYou probably won t read any of her books especially not a memoir if she happens to write another in the future You are glad this book is finished though it wasn t a terrible read Still you
ready to on to better books Yay for you I mean me4 stars for the uality of the writing 1 star for content This was absolutely incredible Just wow exuisite cannot recommend highly enough Contemplative and inventive In the Dream House dispels the silence surrounding abusive ueer relationships In her debut memoir Machado recounts the violence she endured for years at the hands of her first girlfriend a rail thin androgynous unnamed white woman who routinely invalidated and gaslighted her Written in arresting prose the work unfolds in a series of terse terrifying sections each of which centers on a single trope from the conceptual Epiphany Memory Void to the generic Murder Mystery Noir Bildungsroman As she moves back and forth in time viewing the bond from several angles Machado embeds cultural criticism and theory into her story considering the ways in which abuse toward and among women specifically esbians is and is not represented With great subtlety the writer captures the power dynamics at the heart of her relationship and her commentary on American culture is sharp Wow this is a very powerful memoir about an abusive same sex relationship I istened to the audiobook for this and this story was honestly felt ike reading her diary itare ready to
so raw and honest and devastating plus the writing is absolutely gorgeous I haven t about abuse in a same sex relationship before so this book definitely shines a ight on something very importantBut with uotes Chuck and Danielle like this one I was blown away by the writing A reminder to remember just because the sharpness of the sadness has faded does not mean that it was not once terrible It means only that time and space creatures of infinite girth and tenderness have stepped between the two of you and they are keeping you safe as they were once unable to With exacting exuisite prose Carmen Maria Machado writes about the complexities of abuse in ueer relationships in her absolutely remarkable memoir In The Dream House She deftly chronicles the wildness of succumbing to desire the entrancing tenderness ofoving and being Escaping the Endless Adolescence: How We Can Help Our Teenagers Grow Up Before They Grow Old loved the fragility of hope and the unspeakable horror when the woman youove is a monster beneath and on the surface of her skin What makes this book truly exceptional is how Machado creates an archive where shamefully there is none She demands that we face the truths we are all too often reluctant to confront about the kinds of suffering we are willing to tolerate "and the suffering we willfully ignore Machado has already dazzled us "the suffering we willfully ignore Machado has already dazzled us her brilliant fiction writing and she exceeds all expectations as she breaks new ground in what memoir can do Also fuck that trash ass bitch She ain t shit At. F how what happened to her shaped the person she was becomingAnd it's that struggle that gives the book its original structure each chapter is driven by its own narrative trope haunted houses erotica bildungsroman in which Machado holds the events up to the Dogs Behaving Badly: An A-Z Guide to Understanding and Curing Behavorial Problems in Dogs light and examines them from different angles Sheooks back at her religious adolescence unpacks the stereotype of esbian relationships as safe and utopian and widens. .was so raw and honest and devastating plus the writing is absolutely gorgeous I haven t
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All YES YES YES A 1000x better than expected and I expected nothing short of holy scriptureMonths earlier I stumbled upon the description and knew this book would be monumental As early reviews crept in my anticipation grew I had my Kindle fully charged and stayed up until midnight so I could start reading the second it released By 2am I was 30% done A few marathon readings Puckster's First Hockey Sweater later I reached theast page with breathless finality The result Monumental doesn t even begin to cover itThe fu In the Dream House is a most unmemoir ike memoir This account of Carmen Maria Machado s years in an abusive same sex relationship plays with form blending elements of iterary criticism pop culture essays folk tales and the shadowy worlds of her short fiction To tell this real Liar life story Machado cleaves herself in two the first person present day I settled successful safe addresses the second person past you This textual interplay between two Carmens affords closeness than addressing an imagined reader would You cried in front of many people You missed readings parties the supermoon You tried to tell your story to people who didn t know how toisten You made a fool of yourself in ways than oneI thought you died but writing this I m not sure you did Machado has then further cut and polished her pain into dozens of tiny gleaming facets variations in style that are employed as Noir lenses each one offering a new revelation Among these for example are Dream House asipogram as prisoner s dilemma as Schr dinger s Cat as Choose Your Own Adventure as comedy of errors This all could have fallen into a gimmicky heap but the blend of formal inventiveness and raw vulnerability is executed beautifully In the Dream House is a memoir from someone who not only has a painful experience to relate and work through but who can also REALLY write AND think AND synthesise who in her own words can braid the clays of memory and essay and fact and perception together smash them into a ball roll them flat Overall it is unconventional and as such won t be to everyone s taste but not in a way that s distancing or abstract A genuinely memorable and highly impressive work 5 stars Winner of the Lambda Award for LGBT Nonfiction 2020In this intimate formally experimental memoir Machado recalls how she survived an abusive relationship but gives her own experiences a wider context As she illustrates by giving examples from real Renovate: Changing Who You Are by Loving Where You Are life art and scientific texts violence inesbian relationships has rarely been acknowledged and discussed thus rendering the victims almost invisible and making them even vulnerable With In the Dream House Machado wants to add to the archive of stories about the human experience turning the phenomenon of abuse between ueer women into a topic to be considered to be pondered To talk about ueer people as abusers is in fact Machado states an act of iberation We deserve to have our wrongdoing represented as much as our heroism because when we refuse wrongdoing as a possibility for a group of people we refuse their humanity Machado met her unnamed ex girlfriend when she was studying for an MFA in Iowa and with time the woman in the dream house became and controlling passive aggressive and also physically violent gaslighting Machado insulting and diminishing her and playing with her insecurities until Machado finally found the strength to exit the relationship that had become a prison The mechanisms Machado depicts will probably be recognizable for many people but I have to admit that before the author pointed it out to me I hadn "t actively thought about the fact that there are hardly any texts that "actively thought about the fact that there are hardly any texts that about abuse in a ueer context which means that ueer people in these situations do not find themselves represented in real and fictional stories and are thus deprived of a anguage to express what they are experiencing And although Machado explicitly states that it is her goal to change that the situations and effects she depicts are in many respects universal Machado is just a fantastic psychological writer with keen sensibilities and she finds highly evocative words and images to convey her own past This main narrative thread is not only split in multiple short chapters it is also interspersed with flashbacks scientific research on the topic as well as examples from Circumstantial Evidence literature music films and realife that support Machado s argument that violence in Lone Star Justice: The First Century of the Texas Rangers lesbian relationship hasong been a taboo These paragraphs also paint a wider picture of American society as a whole about dynamics that aim to other minorities and to control female sexuality This multi ayered approach is also mirrored in the metaphor of the dream house which not only refers to the Actual House In Bloomington The Ex Girlfriend Used To Live house in Bloomington the ex girlfriend used to ive but also to a house that was not a house and a dream that was no dream at all a self deception with multiple different rooms and scary surroundings think Poe s The Fall of the House of Usher where the house is also much than an actual building To convey her alienation Machado refers to her abused self of the past as you which is a particularly tricky narrative choice and I ve rarely seen an author pull this perspective off so effortlessly and effectfully All in all I A Chicken in Every Yard: The Urban Farm Store's Guide to Chicken Keeping liked this much better than Her Body and Other Parties which I already found rather impressive and once I started reading I couldn t put it down Some parts were slightly too fragmented for my taste but this memoir is a real achievement and deserves all the praise it currently get. The view with essayistic explorations about the history and reality of abuse in ueer relationshipsMachado's dire narrative iseavened with her characteristic wit playfulness and openness to inuiry She casts a critical eye over egal proceedings Star Trek and Disney villains fairy tales as well as iconic works of film and fiction The result is a wrenching riveting book that explodes our ideas about what a memoir can do and. ,
Summer Meditations life the splitting of the pastike a cracked egg To trap yourself in the mirrored halls of your own memory The euivalent of digging a nail into an open soreWriters God Said, Ha!: A Memoir like Machado offer up their ability to communicate the inexpressible throughanguage But it isn t an easy feat putting anguage to something for which you have no anguage Machado couldn t find a On the Right Side of a Dream language for her wordless agony andike many other ueer people in abusive same sex relationships she s had to gather up the silence ike a mantle and carry it along with her step by step Hers ike many others was a story Operation Iceberg : The Invasion and Conquest of Okinawa in World War II like a cry into empty space no walls to throw an echo back That is the violence of the archive Machado says how it wells up and pulls those stories under in ways foreseen and unforeseen as often denied as acknowledged How its trumpets of silence when blown can blast a blanket of uietoud enough to smother ueer relationship traumaIn her memoir Machado joins her account to the ones before her Arrows of the Night: Ahmad Chalabi's Long Journey to Triumph in Iraq long kept under a pall of silence Into this archival silence Machado screams and the sound crashes breaksike a wave and floods the pages with all the force of the oceanIn every sense this is uite a piece of work Machado audaciously pushes the boundaries of the memoir form reshaping the very definition of it to suit the thrumming drum of her remembrance And once unearthed there is no containing the memories The words whip out of Machado Michelin Green Guide Normandy like a spirit breaking free of the skin that restrains it and that restlessness is echoed in the way the chapters are broken apart and re formed and siphoned into a series of vignettes translated into narrative traditions romance novel stoner comedy road trip self help bestseller anditerary tropes Unreliable Narrator Pathetic Fallacy Choose Your Own Adventure I broke the stories down Machado writes because I was breaking down and didn t know what else to do In the Dream House is freuently footnoted too with Machado accounting fairy tale motifs as they occur as flawlessly as Homer accounted his dactyls jabbing a dose of eerie fantasy into the memoir reflecting perhaps the war that stirred in Machado between belief and disbelief as her relationship with her abusive ex girlfriend turned from rocky to surreal to dysfunctional It s an unusual structure but Machado carries off with dazzling aplomb She also occasionally breaks from first person narration to address a you a younger Machado from the past This has the potential to be gimmicky but the author does it to genuinely good effect the I is grounded in the present while the you gives the sense of being past everything of ooking back at and from an ice floe drifted out to seaAbove all In the Dream House is a powerful illustration of the ways that abusers know how to show themselves to best advantage how to cast their victims into shadow and doubt their tactics seemingly so simple with no art to them which of course is artMachado understood very keenly how it is to receive a ove you could not understand why you were worthy of it Sorrow for her dragged at me bearing me down as her ex girlfriend the woman from the Dream House picked up with uick and unflagging instinct the traces of everything in the world Machado was most insecure about how she iked to raise her hopes with a ook "And With Another "break them manipulation the gaslighting and here a chapter called Choose Your Own Adventure an exercise in futility as Machado struggles to follow the complex footwork that ed them to that dysfunctional conversational pivot The carefully curated insults falling What Every American Should Know About the Rest of the World like granite against which soft things might smash and be broken and the following kindnesses that stung worse than cruelty would have done That impulse too to keep it inside to hide it in the raw hope that burying it all away will diminish its power and give it aess vital and terrible form How easy it could all be forgotten distilled into habit and convenience Sit with this Machado urges herself don t forget it s happening Later an understanding I Got a New Friend like a thumb pressed to her throat This is not normal This is not normal This is not normal There are no bounds to how many emotional octaves the author can reach and my heart felt as raw as a burn by the endAs we plow ahead barreling toward the closing pages Machado writes paraphrasing the finalines of a Panamanian folktale my tale goes only to here it ends and the wind carries it off to you The story might be over but for many readers who could say none of their own but saved it in their chests where it did not need to be spoken it will echo on and on ko fi blog twitter tumblr You enjoy reading memoirs because you The Real Lincoln: A New Look at Abraham Lincoln, His Agenda, and an Unnecessary War like to get a better understanding of people how they think and feel toearn different perspectives You are Experiencing the Resurrection: The Everyday Encounter That Changes Your Life lesbian and particularly enjoy memoirs by people in the LGBT community You see this memoir come out ha ha about aesbian relationship and you notice a ot of people really ove it You assume you will too You read and read and you don t ever get inside the author s head or have any idea of what she thinks and feels You don t because she rarely describes her feelings and she writes in the freaking second person present tense and you re ike What the hell is this Who. A revolutionary memoir about domestic abuse by the award winning author of Her Body and Other Parties In the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado's engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad and a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse Tracing the full arc of a harrowing relationship with a charismatic but volatile woman Machado struggles to make sense ,