Pure Inside the Evangelical Movement that Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free E–book/E–pub

Pure Inside the Evangelical Movement that Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free

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As or guys well it S A Different Story I a different story I The book is composed of Rocker Babies Wear Jeans four movements three of which haveour chapters The inal movement has three The irst movment Sono with Visits from the Seventh focuses on theour purity culture stumbling blocks First if the purity culture doesn t work or you then you must be the problem not the movement Second is that girls and women must conform to particular gender roles to be acceptable to men Third unmarried girls and women are to maintain a sexless body mind and and heart to be pure This becomes difficult once a woman marries *because now she is expected to turn on *now she is expected to turn on sexuality to please her husband Fourth there is the systematic mishandling of sexual abuse cases and survivors the topic of the current Supreme Court nomination process These chapters are challenging and unsettling but those of us who have some experience within the evangelical sub culture recognize elements of this story to be true to our own experience Movements two and three ocus on the stories that emerge out of these our stumbling blocks both inside and outside the church Klein brings to us stories of women who aced shame and some ultimately leaving the church She also shows how some broke Heroes Adrift (Hero, free of the messaging both inside and outside the church Theourth section brings some closure showing how people have moved beyond these stumbling blocks As she notes in each section she begins with her own story Although I came of age within an evangelical subculture that predates the Purity Movement as it emerged in the 1980s I can see many of the precursors emerging in my own experience I remember the messaging we got We were told to be sexually pure but we struggled with that Keep your minds clean and clear While we were told masturbation was wrong apparently it was widespread among my male Chuck and Danielle friends Asor my Escaping the Endless Adolescence: How We Can Help Our Teenagers Grow Up Before They Grow Old femaleriends that wasn t a topic to which I was privy I do know that the girls were constantly told to be careful so as not to be a stumbling block Apparently we were of weak minds and spirits and thus the girls in our group needed to be careful with how they dressed I remember going to camp and the girls had to wear t shirts over their swim suits even if they were one piece suits Our experiences might have presaged what came later but it does appear that the messaging became unbearable and destructive as it became not only a religious thing but a business There were no purity rings that I remember I believe that Linda Kay Klein has done us an important avor by telling this story Not only because it uncovers an evangelical subculture but uncovers a culture that holds women to a different standard rom men and seems to encourage disbelief when women share stories of embarrassment abuse assault and a different standard Gray Bishop from men and seems to encourage disbelief when women share stories of embarrassment abuse assault and After all they must have done something to warrant itBy shining a light on this subculture she shines a light on our culture as a whole Women are not stumbling blocks They need noteel shame about their bodies or their sexuality It s time Puckster's First Hockey Sweater for us to have the difficult conversations that might enlighten us all I say this as one who has struggled myself with these uestions She writes stories about women as a way of liberationrom shame She calls the church to account not to destroy aith but to restore it Thanks be to Go. Uestion the purity based sexual ethic She contacted young women she knew asking if they were coping with the same shame induced issues she was These intimate conversations developed into a twelve year uest that took her across the country and into the lives of women raised in similar religious communities a journey that acilitated her own healing and led her to churches that are seeking a new way to reconcile sexuality and spirituality Sexual shame is by no means confined to evangelical culture; Pure is a powerful wake up call about our society’s subjugation of women.
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Same Liar feelings and experiences I did The book is well written well researched and well paced Highly recommend I couldn t put it down As Iinished reading Pure the US Senate was CONCLUDING A DAY LONG HEARING PITTING a day long hearing pitting memoriesclaims of a previously obscure woman and the nominee Noir for a life time appointment to the US Supreme Court The two may be different at one level and yet related at another In the Senate hearings the uestion was who will you believe Too often down through the ages we believe the man and not the woman Could it be that we have different expectationsor women than men If a woman is Renovate: Changing Who You Are by Loving Where You Are found to be sexually impure which might mean simply being at a party and drinking then we shouldn t be surprised when something untoward occurs In other words if something happened then it must be herault If she Gaffer flirts or wears a particular kind of clothing then she might be askingor it Time after time we ve heard that line both Circumstantial Evidence from politicians androm pulpitsPure takes us inside a movement that is widespread within evangelicalism that elevates sexual purity to such a high level that it ends up damaging women s lives The author of this book Linda Kay Klein grew up within this context The books is part autobiography but just as important it is based on multiples of interviews both with riends and others who were directed her way They tell their stories to the author who then relays them to us The book is at points graphic but how can we deal with issues sexuality and not expect to encounter rather graphic stories She tells of a movement that emerged in the 1980s and 1990s that taught in youth groups and rom pulpits the importance of remaining sexually pure The goal was virginity till marriage The message given to young women was that if they ailed to live up to this standard they would be unwanted by men Their marriage prospects would be damaged because and this was a common metaphor who wants chewed gum Not only should a young woman not engage sexually but she should not engage in any sexual thoughts These are unbecoming to woman There was another message given Young women should beware of being stumbling blocks to men She confesses that this warning about being a stumbling block was annoying to her as a junior high student who wanted desparately to please God The message she heards was that she and her riends were nothing than things over which men and boys could trip p 3 Over time the Purity movement became big business with purity rings books clothing and Among the buyers of these products was the government as apparently 2 billion dollars of A Chicken in Every Yard: The Urban Farm Store's Guide to Chicken Keeping federal money has been expended to support abstinence only programming She notes that this money has been distributed to community based organizationsaith based organizations local andor state health departments and schools Only California did not accept Island of the Lost Horses (Dora and Friends) federalunding or abstinence only education programming Churches of course made use of this material as well The movement has had a listing influence on the lives women or as Klein writes the purity movement a listing influence on the lives of women as Klein writes the purity movement that every sexual activity God Said, Ha!: A Memoir from masturbation to kissing if it elicits tha specialeeling can make one less pure p 12 In other words if a woman becomes aroused that is inappropriate. Traumatized many girls resulting in anxiety ear and experiences that mimicked the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and trapped them in a cycle of shame This is the sex education Linda Kay Klein grew up with Fearing being marked a Jezebel Klein broke up with her high school boyfriend because she thought God told her to and took pregnancy tests though she was a virgin terrified that any sexual activity would be punished with an out of wedlock pregnancy When the youth pastor of her church was convicted of sexual enticement of a twelve year old girl Klein began to. I dnf d the book I m left On the Right Side of a Dream feeling what kind of Christian cult is twisting women up like this Why can t men take responsibilityor their own actions What world are they living in One minute the author is a preteen next she is 15 then 26 no she s 21 Everyone around her is busy reinforcing each other into the myth that a girl must protect men rom their teenage hormonal selves or else be known as dirt a snotty tissue a slut a slag manipulative and evil The Pastor obviously a major player in this rigged game married his wife when she was carrying his twins or which she has never ceased to be ashamed He isn t he is of the mindset do as I say not as I doThere s another myth they all seem to believe in that God whispers to them what to do and that they must do it Couldn t be a product of their own imagination So God tells the author that she is to Operation Iceberg : The Invasion and Conquest of Okinawa in World War II finish with her boyfriend of many years despite theact that they have done no than kissing For which she elt so guilty the view spoilerstupid cow hide Spoiler Thanks To Touchstone And Thanks to Touchstone and or this ARC I grew up on the ringes of purity culture It wasn t part of my religious upbringing but I was pretty well acuainted with the movement as a teen in the 90 s Mostly I mocked it as I did most things associated with the Christian Right in those days Only after reading Klein s compassionate and empathetic book do I realize how wrong I was to write off purity culture as some innocuous chastity craze It has left deep culture as some innocuous chastity craze It has left deep on thousands Millions Only God knows how many livesAs a practicing Christian I am appalled by the lack of love shown in this movement just as I have been appalled when reading about the experiences of ormer Christian culture insiders like Vicky Beeching and Jennifer Knapp There is this attitude of us versus them an exclusivity I cannot reconcile with the Gospel Jesus preached And the shame that haunts so many adherents of this movement It is unfathomable to me that this guilt and shame has its roots in a cultural phenomenon that is supposed to be about waiting or True Love Maybe it s maturity or maybe after reading story after story of how negatively True Love Waits etc have impacted the lives of so many of my generation I do not ind this chastity craze unny any It angers me It disappoints me It disheartens me But it doesn t make me laugh I didn t grow up evangelical but I completely understand this purity culture and I m glad people like Klein are writing about it The purity myth is another great book on the same theme I did not love the ormat of the book I wanted to hear in Klein s voice history of the movement and data or commentary Instead Klein just interviews a lot of ex evangelicals and then reproduces the interviews almost verbatim Some are very interesting and some just elt too long I really liked the way she identifies a sort of post traumatic stress syndrome or a neural wiring that links sex with shame in these cultures and how that can effect girls or their entire lives I would have loved data or expert commentary on that than what is provided I was raised in an evangelical community that HHS s subscribed to purity culture I lost count of the times while reading this book I What Every American Should Know About the Rest of the World felt relief and horror that other people had the. From a woman who has been there and back theirst inside look at the devastating effects evangelical Christianity’s purity culture has had on a generation of young women in a potent combination of journalism cultural commentary and memoirIn the 1990s a “purity industry” emerged out of the white evangelical Christian culture Purity rings purity pledges and purity balls came with a dangerous message girls are potential sexual “stumbling blocks” or boys and men and any expression of a girl’s sexuality could reflect the corruption of her character This message. ,